Ready to Strengthen Your Relationship God’s Way?
 
In a world where cultural differences, societal pressures, and past wounds can challenge even the strongest marriages, Mixed to Match: Christ-Like Communication and Conflict Resolution offers a Spirit-led, practical roadmap for interracial and minority couples who want to deepen connection, heal old hurts, and honor God in their relationship.
 
Drawing on more than three decades of marriage, ministry, and counseling experience, Marvin and Sharisse Lucas walk you step by step through biblical principles, tested strategies, and real-life lessons to help you build a Christ-centered relationship that thrives across cultures, generations, and life’s trials.
 
Part I: Communication Awareness
Before you can change the way you speak, you must invite the Lord to renew your heart and understand why you speak the way you do.
Cultural & Religious Considerations – Explore how upbringing, faith, and cultural identity shape your communication style, and how Christ can bridge those differences.
Types of Communication – Learn to recognize patterns of avoidance, defensiveness, shutting down, compliance, and collaboration in light of Scripture.
The Communication Encore – Break free from the repeated “scripts” that keep conflict alive, using biblical tools to rewrite the narrative.
Trust – Discover how love “always trusts” (1 Cor. 13:7), and how to rebuild trust as the foundation for godly dialogue.
 
Part II: Building Communication Skills
Practical, biblical tools to replace frustration with grace.
Becoming Safe – Model Christ’s gentleness (Matt. 11:28) and cultivate the qualities of a safe communicator.
Types of Listening – Compare your listening style with James 1:19—quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger.
Seek to Understand – Practice reflective listening rooted in humility and Proverbs 2’s call for wisdom.
Healthy Expectations – Release worldly pressures and align your relationship goals with God’s timing and will (James 4:13–16).
 
Part III: Conflict Awareness
Understanding the spiritual and cultural roots of conflict.
Cultural, Religious & Gender Considerations – See how family, faith, and identity shape conflict styles.
Satan’s Playbook – Expose the enemy’s schemes (2 Cor. 2:11) that keep couples divided, and learn to resist them.
Does the Emotion Equal the Crime? – Untangle current conflicts from past wounds with biblical wisdom.
Emotional Immaturity – Identify childish responses and pursue spiritual maturity (Gal. 5:22–23).
 
Part IV: Conflict & Resolution Skills
Turning disagreements into opportunities for Christ-like growth.
Boundaries – Define godly boundaries that protect emotional and spiritual safety.
Spiritual Maturity in Conflict – Walk by the Spirit, not the flesh, when tensions rise.
Take Ownership – Remove the log from your own eye (Matt. 7:5) and lead the way to reconciliation.
I’m Sorry & True Forgiveness – Move beyond shallow apologies toward Christ-centered forgiveness (Eph. 4:32).
Step-by-Step Biblical Conflict Resolution – Follow a proven, Scripture-based process for working through disagreements while staying united in love.
 
Appendices
Holistic Life – Integrating prayer, Scripture, and mindfulness into your daily walk together.
Should We Try Counseling? – Guidance for seeking professional Christian help when needed.
More Resources – Ongoing tools, readings, and mentorship at Mixed2Match.net.
 
📖 “Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.” — Romans 14:19